Here is a post I got from a fellow courteous dater...it's a good one. This is from Rae! Thanks Rae.
What Would the Courteous Dater Do?
So I met a guy who I normally wouldn't have given my number to. And I don't know why. It's not like I have a million of them beating down my door. But, I take that back, I do know why. He's just not my norm. I normally like em tall, I love em broad, even though I tend to get em skinny. This guy was only a little taller than me. I mean, when I throw on the heels, I think that we'll be nose-to-nose. On the day that I met him, I had on flat sandals so I let it ride.
When I met him, I noticed that he was flirting, but I wasn't sure if I was going to reciprocate. But then I thought, "WWTCDD (What Would The Courteous Dater Do)." You've gotta admit, the girl has a point. Saying yes to all of the guys that you'd normally say no to. You never know what might happen. I mean this guy was nice, he wasn't bad looking. So hey, I thought, let's see what'll happen. My only issue with him was height. So I passed on my number, and as usual, we spoke everyday for a couple of weeks. Always a good morning text message, I’ve been thinking about you…blah, blah, blah. I had to give the boy props, everyday, he contacted me first. I liked his initiative.
I feel like most guys today don't make much of an effort because they're so used to females coming after them.
So we finally go out and to sum it all up. He needs a first date "do over." Here's how it went down.
He called me at about 8pm to see if I wanted dinner and a movie. But I'd just come from dinner. I offered to eat dessert while he ate and we could go to a movie. With all he had to do, we couldn't hook up until about 10pm. Ok. Cool. Out of the blue I get a text that says "leave now." I'm like dang. I don't get a "hey put your shoes on, I'll be ready in a few minutes." Nothing. But whatever. I text back and ask what time the movies starts. His message back says, "If you leave now, we should be able to make it."
Ok. let's pause. I told him that I wasn't at home. I'd be waiting for him at a friends house in another area. He didn't know exactly where I was. And I realized that he didn't answer my question. I'm smart enough to know that him not answering my question probably meant that something was up.
So I call him. I ask him again. What time does the movie start? His answer, 10:00pm. I say, what time is it now? He says 10:13. Ummm we are both still in the house. Is he serious? So we decide to go to the next movie.
He was still a little late. No big deal. We made the beginning. He goes to get popcorn. We went to see Inception. If you haven't seen it yet, I'll tell you this. You have to pay attention to keep up with the movie. But since he missed the beginning, he asked a few questions. Then he looks at me and says. "You look tired." I told him that I wasn't. He said it 2 more times. After the third time, I said, “Please stop saying that. I'm good.” They mention an architect in the movie. He tells me that he knows someone who studied architecture. Did I mention that there was a movie going on!!!! I asked him if we could discuss it after the movie. I think that he got the picture. So what's left to do? He goes to sleep! Yep. Pretty much half the movie.
Now this is why I was pissed. If he was gonna sleep. I could've stayed home and slept and we could've picked this up another day. Are you serious? When the movie was over. I made a comment about him sleeping we joked about it. Underneath I was a little irritated because I had to get up early the next morning and I was probably jealous because I could've been home sleeping and I didn't get in until 1am. So as a result, he got no kiss. Just a hug goodbye. In his text goodnight, he said that the hug could've been longer. Did you just go to sleep on me and make demands on my goodbye? No.
So it’s now about 3 weeks later. I get a text from him every other day saying, “I really want to be with you. I want to see you. I want to spend more time with you. How can we change your last name to my last name, etc.” But I haven't actually spoken to him since our last date. Everything has been communicated via text. I told him that wasn't gonna cut it. We couldn't move forward if we don't hang out and never talk on the phone. He said that my reply was brutal. Really? Whatever. I think that there's something really insincere and shady about a person who only communications via text.
He asked me out on Friday. He wanted to go to the movies. I don’t know that he’s ready for that this late. I suggested dinner. He said that he preferred the movie as opposed to dinner "so he could hug me thru its entirety." *insert side eye here* I'd just gotten home from being out of town. I was tired, but willing to go out. I knew that I couldn't concentrate on a movie. So I say, how about drinks instead? Um, I still haven't heard from him. He sucks. On to the next one….
So while the Courteous Dater has changed my attitude. This one didn’t cut it. But there was one who did. I’ll have to tell yall about him later. This post is long enough and I’m disgusted just thinking about this dude.
Have any of you practiced the Courteous Daters methods?